Here we get to the heart of the matter. If you have never performed a massage before or if you are not a very manual or very tactile person and your hands are not recognized for their talent as masseuses, then here is a short guide to the good practices of sensual massage and body that should fix it.
What areas can be massaged? Just about anywhere there is muscle, tendons and nerves just waiting to be relaxed. The shoulders and the back are the rather "easy" areas to massage, but do not neglect the neck, the arms, the belly - if your partner agrees -, the thighs, the calves and especially the feet, vectors of all the global nervous balance of our body. Avoid massaging the spine, stay around, along the bones. Position yourself close to your partner's head, or at his side. You can also sit on his butt if he doesn't mind. Here we go !
1. Start at the shoulders and neck
These are the best areas to gradually bring your partner into a moment of relaxation. Begin slowly and gently massaging the top of the spine , just below the neck. Then go up towards the neck and massage the area with small circular movements. Focus on where the neck and shoulders connect, paying particular attention to the outline of the shoulder blade . Gently, slowly massage the base of the skull, often a source of tension, with your thumb and your fingertips.
2. Then massage the back
Hands in a triangle (palms open, index and thumbs together), go up from the lower back to the neck. Go through the shoulders, slide up to the arms, then back down along the sides to the base of the back. Repeat this movement 3 times, very light at first, then more and more supported. Then repeat this movement, this time one hand after the other: the left hand starts alone then once the shoulders are reached, the right hand enters the dance and follows the movement of the left hand. Using the fingertips with the open hand, follow the outline of the shoulder blade. Finish by lightly pressing your lower back and buttocks with your palms open.
3. Massage the back of the legs down to the feet
Start with a kneading motion, going down the leg with medium pressure, up and down and down, repeating it two or three times. Exert good pressure on the feet to avoid tickling sensitivity on the base of the heel by following the outer edge of the foot to the base of the big toe, and this for each toe. Finish by pressing down on each of the toes. For the feet, use the oil in abundance to allow a better glide and avoid the discomfort that your partner could feel in this rather sensitive area.
4. Finish with the areas that your partner wants or those that you want to dwell on
Then gradually slow down the rubbing movements. Make long, uniform and very slow movements with the palms of your hands and go over all the points you have just massaged again to end the massage session gently.