It is through the mirror of others that we discover ourselves. Let us discover our lights but also our shadows. The space of the relationship, whatever it may be, is a powerful playground for our emotional patterns. And if any relationship is a playground, the couple's relationship is a stadium in France.

The other will always help us to reflect the inside of us, sometimes covering, and also stinging. It's when it stings that it becomes interesting. When passion stops blinding us so that love, the true, the authentic, the one that requires a little work and a lot of communication, so that this love can be cultivated on a daily basis.

But when we don't understand each other, what do we do? When our vision of the relationship seems distended and our partner seems equipped with a pair of glasses different from ours to perceive the world, it becomes mission impossible to find one or a plurality of common visions.

So, all it takes is a good optician to allow us to choose the right glasses to understand others, to understand ourselves and bring this dose of tolerance to the functioning of each person. If you still follow me through my little eye metaphor, the right optician for me is the art of astrology. And if you think that in this article we will only deal with love compatibility between astrological signs, keep reading, you will be surprised!

Choosing your partner with astrology

Choosing your partner with astrology

Let's immediately defuse a question that burns us: should we choose our partner based on their astrological sign ? Of course not ! Preconceived ideas like “I'm not meant to be with a Scorpio” or “Aquarians and Capricorns don't mix” are not part of a good astrologer's vocabulary. Any person is likely to correspond to another, regardless of their zodiac sign , if the two lovers have a little desire and energy to devote to understanding the other, themselves and the issues of their relationship.

So if all couples can have a future and choosing a partner based on the stars is of little relevance, why look at the astrological chart of a romantic relationship?

Understanding the other: these famous glasses on the world which are sometimes completely different from ours, would perhaps be much more accessible to us with this astrological method. If he needs security as much, doesn't view commitment in the same way, or is also manic, you may find an answer (and also a lot of tolerance) in the stars.

The strengths and challenges of a relationship: in each relationship, there are facilitating and fluid elements that astrology can highlight, and which allow us to propel the relationship to another stage. But also more difficult points, to be made aware and to keep in the back of our minds in order to be able to develop them together.

Directions for the future: it's not just about describing your relationship or your respective personalities when you study a relationship theme. Astrology is above all there to become a concrete help in our life and to offer us ideas, actions and avenues of reflection so that the relationship finds its harmony.

Far from a Mrs. Irma who would tell you if a relationship will go to marriage or to failure, you understand here, the astro has a little more depth than that!

Compatible signs

Traditionally, in astrology, we will still find signs likely to have needs or functioning that are closer to each other:

Fire signs: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius. These three signs have energy to spare and a great desire for action and accomplishment. They can find themselves on a common vision focused on the construction of projects or common passions.

Earth signs: Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn. Here, those born with earth signs may feel a need for stability and security as well as a common desire to find a certain serenity in the little things of everyday life.

Air signs: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius. With great communication skills, these signs will need to base their relationship on exchange and curiosity.

Water signs: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces. Water sign natives will understand each other through their great sensitivity and listening to their emotions as well as their intuitions.

Beyond this basic operation, this approach to love accounting presents a significant flaw: we are not just a main sign! Indeed, what we call an astrological (or zodiac) sign is in reality only a very small part of our astrological chart : our complete personal astrology map. To understand precisely the functioning, the strengths and the challenges of a romantic relationship, a simple study of solar signs (astrological signs) will not be enough. It is in the comparison of the complete astrological charts of the two partners that we will find keys to the development of the relationship.
Synastry or the astrology of couples

Synastry or the astrology of couples

Couples are entitled to a special astrology technique to understand how they work: synastry .

This somewhat barbaric word describes a magnificent method of comparing two astral charts (our identity card of the stars). In the eye of the astrologer, the relationship is born from the interlocking stars of the two partners . The solar signs are compared of course, but also everything else in the astral chart : our personality traits (the planets) within our vision of the world (the signs), in each area of ​​life (the houses).

Clearly, three entities are taken into account here: the two partners and the relationship they form.

This sometimes complex language of astrology should not frighten you: a good astrologer will always know how to find the words, without watering down his transcription, so that the messages from heaven become clear.

The stars that guide your relationship

The stars that guide your relationship

Here then, no relationship doomed to failure, but only couples who, like everyone else, have strengths, facilities, some flaws, common visions and others that are very distant . And to fully understand how a romantic relationship works , a few astrological points should be highlighted:

  • The Sun: the primordial essence of each partner and the path we are offered to follow. So take a look at each person's sun sign to get a first idea of ​​the relationship.
  • The Moon: basic needs. Each partner in the relationship will have needs that may differ. The sign the moon was in at the time of their birth will be able to tell us each person's needs.
  • Venus: the way of loving. Venus represents our ideal relationship and what we expect from it. A look at Venus in each of the charts is very enlightening on the way of loving, of wanting to be loved and the values ​​of lovers.
  • Mars: sexual energy. Mars is associated, in a relationship chart, with the way of considering sexuality in a couple. Is the sexual chemistry there?
  • Mercury: isn’t the basis of every relationship above all good communication? The planet Mercury tells us about each partner's way of communicating .
  • The 7th House: the houses are areas of life, and the 7th house is related to the area of ​​relationships and couples . The links between these astrological elements in the two partners' charts will be very interesting!
  • Overlapping planets: When looking at your relationship chart, pay attention to planets in a chart that overlap with those in your partner's chart. This celestial rapprochement has a lot to tell us...

This list is obviously not exhaustive, but already gives a good overview of the challenges of a relationship.

Make the birth chart of your relationship

You may want to go further and look at these different points for your own relationship. If so, you can observe your relationship theme (or synastry) through sites like AstroTheme or Evozen .

Even though these sites allow us to observe relationship themes, they unfortunately remain very superficial in the description and analysis of the theme. Nothing beats humans and a good astrologer to transcribe the stars and all their subtleties. Choose him thanks to his ethics which will please you, the room which he will leave to your free will, and the way he will listen to you. Like a good gynecologist or a good partner, the good astrologer is cherished for a lifetime.

Article written by Anne-Flore Laurec - Les Païennes