In the privacy of women, sexual life is not always rosy and can sometimes be strewn with pitfalls and obstacles to pleasure; dyspareunia, endometriosis, vaginismus … many pathologies and symptoms can prevent us from achieving fulfilling sexuality. If you would like to know more about these female pathologies, do not hesitate to consult our dedicated blog articles:
Endometriosis & sexuality: for a more fulfilled intimate life
Endometriosis and dyspareunia: how to relieve pain during penetration?
In women, these sexual disorders cause pain during intercourse during penetration, pain after intercourse, fear or anxiety about having intercourse, or a bodily reaction such as involuntary contraction of muscles of the vagina which prevents penetration ( vaginismus ). These disorders greatly impact the emotional and sexual lives of these women who suffer from them, and who sometimes reject sexuality.
Here are some figures from a survey conducted by EndoFrance and My S Life in November 2021 among 384 people:
· 55% of people suffering from dyspareunia admit to having fear/anxiety about sexual intercourse , or a little more than one in 2 people.
· 84% of those questioned who have not had sex for more than a year believe they have fear/anxiety about penetrative sex .
· 67% of single people say they have fear/anxiety about sexual intercourse . Many of those interviewed consider endometriosis as an obstacle to meeting people, a difficulty as a single person in being able to open up to others, have sex or quite simply build a relationship peacefully.
We told you earlier, it is essential to understand your own sexuality in order to find the method that suits you best, taking into account your own obstacles such as these pathologies. If using a good quality lubricant would be our number one piece of advice, redefining one's sexuality and in particular questioning penetrative intercourse are just as obvious to combat pain during intimate intercourse.
In these cases of endometriosis, dyspareunia and vaginismus , the shallowing method is a ready-made solution: by practicing sex without penetration or with gentle penetration which is concentrated at the entrance to the vagina, we allow ourselves to have a comfortable sex life that meets our needs. It is an excellent method for reclaiming the sensations of caresses and stimulation in this area that one would have neglected, for fear of pain linked to penetration. Shallowing thus constitutes a new way to feel good without pain or apprehension, but also a new way of making love , and living your sex life with complete serenity.