HOW TO CHOOSE YOUR SEXTOY?

As if by magic mixed with very healthy curiosity, a strong desire to renew yourself internally begins to seriously germinate. You feel in you an immense even pressing need to finally bring a little originality to your sexuality and rest assured, we are in full normality and it is to your honor to be interested in it.

At YESforLOV we are fervent anti-routine activists: so, arguments to spice up your sexuality and convince you to take a new course far removed from the routine of everyday life and the monotony of unimaginative sex , we have dozens of them. However, the first idea that we all think of is certainly the following: What if I tried a sex toy? And why not get a dildo, a vibrator or an anal plug to reconnect with yourself or the other, to break with the gaping routine of everyday life, to explore your body and enjoy vibrating orgasms mucous membranes? Because there are no perfect sex toys and there are so many on the market, in all shapes, sizes and colors, YESforLOV helps you find the one that suits you best.

Do you want to invest in your first sex toy, but finding the one that will fully satisfy you seems to be mission impossible as there are so many references? Our guide is there to help you find your happiness.

Sex toys, a story that goes back to the dawn of time

The quest for carnal pleasure and the much desired and sought-after orgasm, solo or in duo, goes back to the dawn of time. Neither of you are the first or the last to have thought of using these vibrating mini objects in the shape of a phallus or a vagina. While the sextoys market has been booming for several years, we are keen to go back to its origins for you and tell you its story over time.

The first appearances of the sex toy in Antiquity

According to our research, it was in Antiquity well before JC that the very first sex toy appeared. According to legend, it would be Cleopatra, the Queen of Egypt, who was the somewhat devilish instigator of this intimate toy before becoming its first user. Not a penguin a priori this queen of legend who would have, it seems, imagined having bees fill a simple roll of papyrus to better appreciate in private the vibrations caused by the buzzing of these pretty furious ladies around their own queen of having deserted their usual hives. All of ancient Asia was also fond of these unusual but coveted objects, having the appearance of long polished stones wrapped in silk. Their uses, however, were reserved for queens only and taught only in the royal palace. Among the Greeks, these same objects, made of stone or wood, were called "gaude mihi" , which meant "Rejoice me", and which will later give rise to the word dildo.

The sex toy and its brief medical career

The period of bygone antiquity, the power and the growing influence of the church within society will unfortunately undermine this very legitimate object of desire. The social classes, disconcerted, willy-nilly choose chastity to the detriment of this natural right to the pleasure of sex... It will be necessary to wait until the 19th century to see the first mechanized sex toy appear in the medical field: a kind of A new type of small steam engine invented by the British physician Joseph Mortimer Grandville. The “ Grandville hammer ” aka “the spring-loaded mechanical striker” had the primary function of treating women with hysteria and nothing more.

The democratization of the sex toy

It is only at the very beginning of the 20th century with the appearance and then the generalization of electricity that the sex toy will move away from the medical environment to enter the sphere of pleasure and the intimacy of homes. The vibrator , which at that time looked much more like a hair dryer than an erect phallus, will benefit over the years from astonishing developments both in its design and in its presentation.

From then on, sex toys for adults will become real consumer goods and will continue to develop and reinvent themselves. Marked by the seal of pornography, Carrie, Charlotte, Samantha and Miranda from the series "Sex and the City" will greatly contribute to the sacrosanct democratization of intimate toys. The broadcast of episode 9 of this same series, which praises the famous "Rabbit" , a pink rabbit-shaped dildo, will cause a phenomenal, immediate and absolute planetary buzz. The “price” of the vibrator will skyrocket, sex shops will spring up on every street corner and the taboos concerning the use of sex toys will become a little less pressing, more discreet.

From the beginning of the 2010s, manufacturers of sex toys will redouble their imagination by offering minimalist and varied designs , in pocket format or in non-standard dimensions, controllable or not with a remote control, rechargeable or battery-powered, to meet the desires and to the needs of women and men who have remained somewhat ignorant in the face of all these novelties. Even beyond the appearance, technologies will constantly evolve and increasingly creative models will multiply: motor, pulsator, sucker... this was the beginning of the golden age of the sex toy.

WHY USE A SEX TOY?

5 GOOD REASONS TO USE A SEX TOY

1. To map your internal geography to get to know your body better

Sex toys, and especially geisha balls can become valuable and formidable allies in their performance to get to know your own body and be discreetly informed of what can give it the most pleasure. Intimate toys are great tools for those who don't dare to caress themselves or who want to learn how to make themselves come with impunity. Getting to know your body from every angle allows you to stimulate your erogenous zones in the best and most effective way, to fully identify them before savoring, alone or in pairs, new sensations that you cannot imagine. Well prepared in advance, orgasms are not utopia.

2. To spice up your sex life and play at making love

Contrary to some popular belief, the use of sex toys is not limited to solitary masturbation. The use of a sex toy is just as popular among singles as it is among couples. In France only 6% of users have used their intimate toys only for solo pleasures . It is therefore a great accessory that reaches out to you if you finally decide to initiate yourself to new love games . And good news, whatever your sexual orientation, there is something for everyone, for every couple.

3. For loving complicity and sexual enjoyment

It's as simple as that, intimate toys reinforce the playful side of pleasure and eroticism in romantic relationships. Its impact on sexual life is beneficial both in relational and sexual terms. Sex toys bring pleasure, play and allow you to fully experience intense and different orgasms , multiple and fully shared orgasms . Now it's up to you to learn how to handle the dildo and establish your own rules together.

4. To relax and feel good about your body

Intimate toys were created to make you come and give you pleasure. Several scientific studies have proven that orgasm triggers the release of oxytocin aka " the love hormone " which allows our body to release stress , relax and provide a great feeling of well-being . Considered a meditation , masturbation allows our brain to let go and we really need it in these difficult times.

5. To discover new, unprecedented and exquisite sensations

With the arrival of new technologies, it is clear that certain sensations cannot be reproduced identically by his or her partner and in the allotted time. The proof with the famous WOMANIZER which offers light suction and intense vibrations on the glans of the clitoris. According to its designer, this 2.0 intimate object guarantees an orgasm in less than a minute . Impressive isn't it?

WHAT CRITERIA TO TAKE INTO ACCOUNT WHEN BUYING YOUR INTIMATE TOY?

Before buying your sex toy, you will have to take into account a few significant details that will help you compare the thousands of references offered on the Net.

- The material and components of your intimate toy

Not all materials are equal, far from it! and each manufacturer uses different materials in the composition of sex toys. There are rather noble materials of very high quality and others of lesser quality but more affordable. Some are rigid, others more flexible, porous or soft to the touch, easy or delicate to maintain. Our favorite goes to medical silicone which offers the advantage of being hypoallergenic , non-porous, easy to maintain, soft and pleasant to the touch. It is in a sense a must have, especially if it is " made in France " as with the Fun Factory sex toys offered on our online store. Intimate toys made from ABS plastic and elastomer have the advantage of being more affordable in terms of price. There are also sex toys made from metal, glass or ceramic that provide new sensations of hot and cold . Wood remains the most ecological and durable material, but this wood must be perfectly polished to guarantee a sensual effect without risk of splinters. We recommend the creations of Thierry Germain , a cabinetmaker from the Vosges, or those of the Idée du Désir brand. For the rest, we advise you to avoid latex, jelly or PVC sex toys at all costs . These materials are subject to transformation and the risk of the presence of substances harmful to the body is much greater. There are many models available on Alibaba that contain phthalates, chlorine or endocrine disruptors. To be concrete, let's say that these chemicals are used to soften plastic but are still considered toxic for human reproduction.

- The size of the intimate toy

The average length of an intimate toy is 15cm to 20cm , which roughly corresponds to the dimensions of a penis, but don't be surprised if you come across XXL models. According to Teddy Linet, a French gynecologist-obstetrician, the vagina would have an average length of 6.3cm at rest with a smaller width near the vulva with a diameter of about 17mm and larger at the bottom of the vagina (about 45mm). The vagina is an organ that could be described as elastic and that we could compare to tights since the vagina has no cavity and would allow the passage of a finger, a tampon, a penis and a penis. 'a baby. In conclusion, the vagina is neither big nor small but adapts under the irrigation of blood vessels and relaxes under the effect of excitement. So there is no perfect sex . Both the vagina and the vulva are different from woman to woman. So, what size to choose for your toy? If this is your first adult toy, don't think big and start with a toy that's small in size and has a decent diameter . Last bit of advice, don't forget to use a water-based intimate lubricant that ensures perfect gliding and pleasant, painless penetration.

- Provenance and origin

95% of sex toys are made in China. To date, there is only one European brand, FUN FACTORY, and as we are committed to recommending quality products, this is the one we have chosen to offer you on our online store. Do you swear by “made in France” sex toys? We have just unearthed a little nugget called COCO created by the Puissant brand, a young French start-up.

- The targeted pleasure zone

If the erogenous zones of men are limited to the prostate and the penis, among women the pleasure zones are much more numerous and there are toys adapted for each of them. Therefore, the model you choose will largely depend on the area you want to stimulate: the glans of the clitoris with these 8000 sensory sensors , a real pleasure bomb, the G-spot located a few centimeters deep from the vagina, the deep-spot located at the very bottom of the vagina, the vaginal walls less rich in sensory sensors but which can be pleasant to stimulate by friction, the highly innervated anal area or the perineum .

- The power source

There's nothing more frustrating than wanting to use your sex toy only to find it's not working due to battery issues. On this criterion, you can opt for rechargeable models that recharge with a simple click via a USB port or for battery-powered models . Batteries are a more expensive option in the long term, but it is practical in the event of a breakdown because you will always find a remote control or a scale that contains the energy necessary to make you come. You can also opt for wire sex toys , it's old school but they are surely the most powerful.

- Its resistance to splashes or 100% waterproof

If you like to make love as it suits you in the shower or caressing yourself in your bubble bath, know that there are models that can be completely immersed in water when other, more fragile ones will give up the ghost. after a few seconds. So be careful about purchasing.

- The price and the guarantee

Sex toys, you will find them at all prices. The cheapest we found on the Internet costs 9.90€. At YESforLOV, we offer quality sex toys guaranteed for 2 years ranging from €24 to €139. The most expensive sex toy in the world is called Victor, it is made entirely from yellow gold and can also be adorned with diamonds. You could, if your heart and your purse agree, get it for the modest sum of €40,000, a trifle these days. Let's stay serious and applied in our desire to love: no need to spend so much even if this device is precious and very useful to you. Our advice is as follows: set yourself a budget not to exceed but above all do not skimp on quality ; there is nothing worse than receiving a device that is defective or seems to be working but ultimately leaves you with nothing but frustration, disappointment and regret. In the same way, we also invite you to read our article How to maintain your sex toy?

WHICH SEXTOY TO CHOOSE, FOR HIM, FOR HER, OR FOR US?

The best intimate toys for people with vulva

- The clitoral stimulator with contact : Unlike traditional vibrators, stimulators for the clitoris do not offer vaginal penetration, but diffuse intense vibrations on the lips and glans of the clitoris. At YESforLOV, we offer you the LOV'finger , a vibrating ring for the clitoris or LOV'touch , a massage roller for the erogenous zones.

- The non-contact clitoral stimulator : It is also known as the clit vacuum cleaner. These new generation stimulators do not use vibration but sonic pulsations created by variations in air pressure . These stimulators are very effective since they offer a subtle balance between caress, massage and pulsation. We recommend the premium-eco womanizer , made from sustainable and renewable materials. It's quiet and incredibly efficient.

- Pulsators : These are sex toys that do not vibrate but reproduce back and forth movements. These intimate toys promote maximum friction on the vaginal wall, the G-spot, and the perineal sponge . The best pulsator is by far the Sundaze from FUN FACTORY.

- Vaginal vibrators : More commonly called dildos , these are sex toys that vibrate, all that is more classic. Straight or curved, smooth or wavy, classic or design, the vaginal vibrator has different aspects for a single real objective: to provoke vaginal orgasm . Some of these pleasure stimulators are equipped with a double motor capable of leading to both vaginal and clitoral ecstasy. We all know the famous Rabbit sex toy with its phallic silhouette featuring a small rabbit's head at its base, which allows you to generate internal stimulation and external stimulation at the same time , thus multiplying the sources of pleasure and the "happy ending". “orgasmic. In this unique range, we recommend the Miss Bi which gently envelops the clitoris and stimulates the G-spot with its curved shape. The little extra is its personalized reference to the colors of YESforLOV. It is offered to you in a limited edition.

- Geisha balls : They come in the form of two balls of varying weights connected by a cord helping to tone the muscles of the pelvic floor. It is a great object for the rehabilitation of the perineum . Discover our geisha balls and our exercises for the perineum in our article Playing the geisha: why and how to strengthen your perineum?

The best intimate toys for people with penises

- Prostate stimulators and anal plugs : Prostate stimulators allow you to massage the prostate while stimulating the perineum. Considered as the male G-spot, the prostate (or P-spot) is the organ that would cause the most pleasure according to recent studies carried out on men's sexuality. Want to learn more about stimulating this erogenous zone? We give you all our advice in our article dedicated to prostate stimulation . And for those looking for a plug, the Bootie S is available from €29 in our intimate accessories store.

- Tanga egg masturbators or vaginettes : Available in the form of a sheath for masturbating or more roughly in the form of a vagina, these sex toys make it possible to sublimate masturbation and push its limits in breathtaking realism.

- Glans stimulators : Designed to stimulate the glans of the penis , their sensations are close to fellatio and deliver exciting vibrations to the most sensitive part of the penis, the glans. The gold medal goes to the famous Manta masturbator which turns the codes of sex toys for men upside down with a chic and elegant design, with several modes of speed, intensity and rhythm to accentuate the sensations, just to push the muscles even further. innovative qualities of this new sex toy for men made in Germany.

The best intimate toys for couples

If you want to share the pleasures for two during your crazy loving embraces, you can opt for different models like the NOS cock ring which allows the gentleman to hold on longer while caressing the external clitoris of the lady . Voluptuous duos and joint orgasms are yours. The Swedish sex toy brand LELO also offers the Noa which is inserted into the woman's vagina but offers enough space for the penis to be inserted. You can also opt for remote-controlled eggs and connected sex toys if you are traveling abroad. These small pleasures are to be shared as you wish and as often as you wish, in the comfort of your home as in the busiest public places without the glances of unsuspecting passers-by disturbing the privacy of your private recreations.

OUR SELECTION OF QUALITY INTIMATE TOYS

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Your heart is racing. This article has kindled new desires in you. If spicing up his antics with a toy can be a very good idea, we advise you before brandishing your toy in the bedroom to talk to your partner about it beforehand. Similarly, an orgasm can manifest itself in many ways. Sex toys make you go from 0 to 100 but sex remains a matter of pleasure and not an obligation. No need to force yourself to use a sex toy. If you are reluctant, you are likely to be disappointed. Everyone is free to create their erotic territory and to choose their sources of pleasure, whether mechanical, carnal, emotional or intellectual.