Understanding slow sex and the spirit that drives it requires a little commitment, perspective and humility in the face of our Western culture. The bet is far from won if we do not make the necessary efforts, if our investment in this new challenge is insufficient. No cheating and pretence in slow sex, it's a win-win.
Slow sex is the opposite of rushing and quickly seeking pleasure and orgasm . This requires a lot of time, complicity between the partners and, icing on the cake, a ritualization of the rendezvous of love which is counted according to the tastes of each other, in maddening candles , accomplice perfumes and more according to affinities. Sexuality remains a personal matter in which each of us finds our way to the heart of our intimate life. “No sex” is heresy but it is a possibility that we must respect. Exit the “Sex performance”. It's up to all of you to settle into the sexuality that suits you and it is certain that slow sex will bring you joy and happiness if you put all your heart and all that is good and loyal into it.
Slow sex favors a tender gaze towards the other, gentle caressing, slowness in gestures and the softness of words and words ; it naturally imposes deep breathing which is perfect for you to find this balance and this inner wisdom that you need. Slow sex, well assimilated and therefore well understood, frees your mind, it helps you to forget in the moment the sources that pollute your existence to finally indulge in the simple pleasure of love.
Experiencing a different relationship to time in meditative sitting, listening to one's body, one's emotions, one's sensations in yoga postures, are all avenues that help to channel this often crazy mind, to direct it towards the present moment, to live in full consciousness the “mindfulness” coming from the USA and already well recognized in France by the voice of Christophe André, Matthieu Ricard and other mediators of these precious techniques. The path to be fully happy in this discipline is long but it is a challenge that is in no way utopian! To help you, why not add break times, slow and meditative walking to your sports activities, or discover new sciences such as relaxation, sophrology or yoga? You are the only guarantor of your libido and we invite you to give the floor back to the body. To be conscious is to welcome the new, never to reproduce what one already knows, to be present at the moment and not to go straight to the point, to discover new sensations, to be as close as possible to the right act. This path to take, more than a goal to achieve, is a step-by-step journey.
“What is right is easy”
Once well assimilated, slow sex then becomes the ace of aces of physical love when it lives up to its legitimate aspirations. This sexual practice offers us the opportunity to really become aware of our own personality and our immediate availability or not in the face of our most modest and wildest desires. The bestial ardor is now swinging at the top of the gallows but rest assured, dear readers, the ardor aware of all the dangers lurking responds just as present in the slowing down of desires to make love. Respectful and loving sex opens up unknown horizons to us that we have neglected for too long and slow sex is ringing at our door to better remind us of it. Without libido, we would be invulnerable. Thank the Universe that this is really not the case. Let our sexual appetites be reassured: there is no witchcraft in our words. We only ask for sublime and supreme slowness in our bulimic desires (or not) to make love, in all modesty but with a lot of optimism for the pleasure of natural, simple and shared sex. Making love should remain a pleasure to share and nothing more.