There is no legal framework that governs tantric massage. And no more diplomas from elsewhere to practice. So be careful and don't trust charlatans. Get closer to the pros in sex therapy to inform you (renowned massage workshops if there is no other alternative for the solo massage and priority given if possible to the duo massage “at home”).
Tantric massage does not replace medicine or physiotherapy. There is also a golden rule in tantra: whatever massage exercise is practiced in an outdoor workshop, everything is done without sexual projection. It's crisp and clear. Making love will therefore be for later: it is high time to say goodbye to this rather special atmosphere and its smells of bestial sex to return to the true philosophy of tantra so that you can benefit from all its benefits . The time has therefore come to reconnect with oneself and with the other and to live intensely the present moment in absolute silence . Only visible presence: the gaze of one and the other.
Here are some practical exercises to build your confidence.
1 – The essential: tantra during the preliminaries to establish the connection of bodies and minds
Sit down together in the room you enjoy the most or in a corner of the house that seems most favorable to you to let go and relax , to this connection that you are looking for and that everyday life forbids you too much. often. It's the magic and opportune moment to turn on your LOV'space perfume diffuser which will offer you a subdued light and soft and sensual scents in your bedroom. You can also put on music conducive to relaxation. As a bonus, give both of you a "Namaste", this Indian greeting that is also found in the cozy setting of yoga. Get closer to your partner to better open yourselves towards the same goal: to feel in silence really close to each other in thought. Sit across from each other, cross-legged on the mat. We brush against each other without touching, we don't cheat. Give to this unknown, blessed, unique time which begins at this moment, all the importance and the future that it deserves. Either way, take a deep breath, close your eyes, and take your own gaze within yourself. Focus on your personal space . Silence is golden. Repeat this experience several times if you feel the need. Finally open your eyes and meet your partner's gaze. A first victory is at the end of this first journey: tears at the key? giggles? uncertain smiles? No matter, no chatter, but there is the mute gaze of one towards the other and an incredible connection which is established in full freedom of bodies and hearts.
2 - The perineum in the spotlight, the original chakra of sexual energy
The perineum is the base of the sexual energy . Be aware of this, it is vital. Focus on this in your own way, with deep, steady breathing . If necessary, remind your partner that he or she has a perineum to train. Both perineums are a couple's affair. If you want to tone your perineum , we have concocted a lot of exercises for you with our geisha ball available in this article . Beyond tantric massage, the perineum retains its full place in heterosexual intercourse: by contracting his perineum, the man frees his penis which rises; the woman on her side, by contracting her own perineum, grips her partner's penis. Movement of choice almost motionless but so strong in intensity! Last little recommendation: do not forget to relax your perineum when you feel the need. Contracting your perineum is great, but relaxing it is just as important.
3 – Duo massages and their benefits
Totally naked, stage your home tantric massage session in the most playful way possible. Choose a good quality lubricating massage oil and massage each other all over the body, gender included. The Integral Lubricant Massage with its intoxicating scent will fully accompany you on this spiritual journey. This massage gel has been specially designed for tantric sex with its tremendous lubricating effect and cashmere feel. Do, preferably together, your initiation to tantric massage, learn to massage each other without outside help from a professional tantra. And don't forget that there is no reciprocity: the one who is about to massage the other does not wait his/her turn, he/she gives for the sole well-being of the other. . The massaged person then takes full advantage of all these moments of total well-being, discovers or rediscovers their own forgotten or abandoned erogenous zones . We are there at the other end of the sex with forced coitus, of the sex which dreams of orgasm: it is a much deeper and intimate relaxation which awaits you both. In tantrism, all parts of the body are sacred : sex is therefore not taboo in tantric massage! There are no more obligations that he participates in it. Tantric massage is done gently, slowly, at the convenience of the partners, integrated or covered sex, total or partial nudity. Tantric massage can also be done solo with the help of a specialist in the field. It's up to you to trust the rigorous and competent pro or pro who will seem to live up to your aspirations.