"Letting go is accepting your own limits, it's stopping fighting at the expense of your balance, your integrity and your freedom." Nathalie Dinh.
Making love is a loving and warm competition, far from the confrontation between the ropes of a boxing ring which demands the knockout of one of the two actors. The fear of unsatisfied sexual desire, this frustration hovers slyly above lovemaking like an ominous bird waiting for its prey. It's unfortunate to have to make this observation but it's the reality of sex on its playground.
This irrational fear of failure, it is high time to drive it out of your brain. The physical and psychological consequences of the fear of doing wrong or not giving enough are too devastating to ignore. This tough battle is won brilliantly when the desire to let go prevails over the search for performance , competitiveness and comparison. There is therefore no need to want to control everything in bed or elsewhere: no longer waste your time looking for a blue pill to play extra time, but take a step back to channel your energy, to control your pleasure, and above all let go in the present moment . By reconnecting to your own body , gaining self-confidence , you will easily find the right key to open the doors of pleasure.
In this state of mind so positive and without pressure, you will benefit from an airlock of relaxation and almost immediate security which will evacuate your strongest tensions, your stresses and will free you from your too negative anxieties. The letting go that you impose on yourself in full agreement with yourself requires serenity and peace of mind and it must in no case come to upset your emotional state which is strongly put to work. Bolster your own self-confidence and fully trust your partner . Also learn not to be dependent on others. In the romantic relationships that come to brighten up this disconcerting world of the 21st century, learning to let go, knowing how to do it at the right time, is a wise choice , of paramount and vital importance. There is nothing very rational in love: “The heart has its reasons which reason does not know”.
Our valuable advice:
- Keep your cool and your free will but do not impose anything, propose, suggest .
- The magic of orgasm comes from sharing this physical pleasure that is sex: nothing is more pleasurable than enjoying with another. To really hear and appreciate this symphony of orgasm and love, you still have to listen to it together . It is an affective and magnificent experience of the senses which is not the sole initiative of a single partner, the other partner must participate fully in its own way in its accomplishment.
From the fantasy of the XXL penis to the obligation to satisfy one's partner at all costs, this image of the man presented is added and it's a mistake like a sex machine, a tireless stallion. This media and social pressure reinforces men's erroneous beliefs about their own sexuality and increases their very real anxieties all the more. Result: a reductive sexuality with often disastrous consequences. The solution for all those who doubt, who have the impression of not "ensure", does not reside in any little miracle pill. It is by freeing themselves from the obligation to be technically infallible, by ceasing to be "phallocentric", that men will be able, without fear, to access the true dimension of sexuality. A human sexuality with infinite and shared pleasures , one that makes sexual encounters no longer a martial journey, but a place of sharing and exchange .
Do you think you've been a premature ejaculator since your last love affair? Do you think you have erectile dysfunction since last night's blackout? For the problem to be confirmed, it is necessary that the erections are systematically unstable (or absent) and that the sexual intercourse systematically lasts less than one minute. If you don't, release the pressure . You are not isolated in these sexual difficulties and if there was ever a first in this area, you will never be the last.