So, for women and men, what is considered the perfect amount time to spend enjoying sensual love making?
Let’s dig a little deeper into this phenomenon that causes many of our minds to obsess and many of our little friends to lose their strength and stamina.
First and foremost, do you measure the quality of your relationship as a whole based on the amount of time you’ve been together? This same concept can be applied to our moments of sensual sensuality. Sometimes we can enjoy a quickie that is filled with hot intensity, erotic passion, and massive orgasms which can be short, but extremely pleasurable for both parties. It’s almost like taking ice cream on the go rather than sitting and enjoying desert at the table. For couple’s that are extremely busy or have kids, this might be the ideal way to enjoy hot romantic sex, and that’s perfectly fine. Whether your love making sessions are too long, too short, or not intense enough depends entirely on you and your partner. Comparing yourself to other couples, porn, and societal expectations is completely useless. You partner is also an important factor, and whether or not they are in the mood for any games of desire. If their satisfaction is becoming a problem, erotic foreplay can help turn them on, give them more time to orgasm, and help to set the erotic scene for a great night.
As you can see, it is impossible for us to establish the ideal duration, because every cuddly couple is different, and everyone has different preferences.
There are many studies done to measure the average duration of sexual intercourse. In 2005, an American doctor by the name of Dr. Irwin Goldstein revealed that the average duration of sexual intercourse was around 7.3 minutes. A few years later, Dr. Eric Corty, a professor at Penn State repeated Dr. Goldstein’s study a few years later, and had almost identical results. The latest study was conducted by Australian psychologist Brendan Zietsch, who used 500 couple’s from 5 different countries (United Kingdom, Spian, Turkey, Netherlands, and the United States. This study that was conducted in 2017 found the average duration to be 5.4 minutes, and the difference is large between the maximum and minimum: 33 seconds being the minimum duration of intercourse and 44 minutes being the longest.
When it comes to studies and surveys conducted on the ideal duration of sexual intercourse, it is usually considered less that satisfactory if the average duration is less than 2 minutes.
For the majority of the study, 120 seconds was considered way too short, except for when sex needed to be quick. 2 minutes or less was also considered too fast and wasn’t enough time to enjoy an erotic moment together.
Sex that lasted between 5 to 10 minutes was considered very satisfactory, although both men and women prefer that sex lasts between 10 and 15 minutes.
Beyond 20 minutes, the majority of men and women felt that it was too long which made it become boring. In a social media poll conducted by GA USA, a reporter found that 82% of respondents felt bored during sensual love making if it lasted too long. A majority said that they wanted it to end as soon as possible, which is proof that long sex isn’t synonymous with satisfaction, in fact, it’s the opposite.
So, to answer your burning question, the ideal duration of hot romantic sex is between 7 and 13 minutes. Various studies have shown this, but it’s also important to keep in mind that it’s just data, and that every erotic couple is different in terms of what they like. If you are finishing at 5 or 6 minutes, you are still within the average range, so do not fret! The most important thing is that you and you partner get to experience massive orgasms, and that you’re fully satisfied. Erotic foreplay can always prolong the love games as well, as well as adding sex toys for clitoral stimulation to ensure your partner is satisfied.