How to be more efficient under the duvet so that you find the smile of a happy man even if on the sex side, your secret dream is to make love as naturally and as beautifully as possible in total harmony and such beautiful complicity ! No qualms to have young men of all ages: send to the devil your fears and your anxieties of not being up to the task in this erotic act!  Masculine in danger, we roll up our sleeves while waiting for better days and we rectify the situation as best as possible... One thing is certain: there is a solution for every problem! Still, it is necessary to consider erectile disorders as a very real problem! We also speak of impotence, as if there were a notion of power in this erotic act. What nini! Without speaking of exceptional sexual performance to be achieved at all costs for the honor of the male, to move enough on the male side to fully satisfy your partner is first of all to satisfy yourself and reassure yourself about your own abilities! We are here at the opposite of the sacrosanct and ineluctable marital duty : the love of performance seen from this angle is a notion to be banished! Put your desires to love back on the right track ! Don't miss the right wagon! You will all encounter difficulties between your 16 and 80 brooms, you young shooters and you more mature men. Do not be ignorant or falsely brave in the face of your erection problems , whether temporary or chronic! Anti-erectile disorder solutions really exist and, as much to tell you, they all fall mainly within the psychological domain!

Have you experienced a sexual breakdown? you bend soft? Are you going through this disturbing and catastrophic course of shame that makes you miserable in your eyes? However , do not hesitate to confront it and fully face your doubts and fears that paralyze you upstream. Take the problem head on and act as quickly as possible, for your own well-being in the first place but also for that of your partner! 

In this sex article dedicated to men, YESforLOV suggests some recommendations and gives you advice on how to better regain the fullness of your original abilities. Even if you were, personally, the said problem would be problematic to collect personally on the physical level and so delicate to assume psychologically and psychically speaking! Hard, hard, to have in front of your mirror to recognize your own shortcomings and limits and it 's even worse in front of your loved one! Whatever the circumstances, try to stay cool folks! A problem that arises is a solution to come. The penis in men and the clitoris in women , let's not forget it, are the two jewels of our sex life on earth: a mischievous nod, therefore, on the masculine side to this little soldier of love and his two superb prunes who would like to see you, gentlemen, living more in peace with your penis.

Male erection, how does it work? We explain to you...

First of all, a little reminder for all of you... and all  ! Before plunging into the maze of this male phenomenon: always keep in mind that everything is as much a matter of psychology as of physics! Erectile dysfunction is therefore not a cataclysm and it is perfectly repairable!

There are several types of erection that we have classified into 3 categories, voluntary erections, reflex erections those in the morning and which reveal no sexual stimulation, and nocturnal erections. Moreover, men experience between 4 and 6 each night. If morning and/or nighttime erections are preserved but you suffer from erectile dysfunction, the most likely cause is psychological. Otherwise, the causes would be rather mechanical and organic.

Well and to put it simply, how does an erection actually happen?  Everything starts from the brain which, like a philharmonic orchestra at least in theory, triggers this phenomenon of erection that we have considered for too long as essentially mechanical. In the gradual arrival of pleasure, in the very real practice of chamber sport , the reality can turn out to be very different , even painful. The mechanism of erection is not as well oiled as one might imagine ! 

Let's discover together the different phases of the phenomenon of male erection. 

The different phases of erection

1. The rest phase:
It 's routine, the penis is at rest and in a state called flaccid. Your weapon of pleasure and love is however well and truly ready to draw at the first alert!  Unemployed when it is not in demand , the penis is always under permanent control of the brain via the sympathetic nervous system.

2. The excitement phase:
Touch your penis a bit, move it a little more and you will immediately know who you are dealing with! As a preview of a life-size erection, simple physical or visually erotic stimulation sets in motion its beneficial work: the fellow wakes up harshly to the great satisfaction of his master on board!

This touch beforehand is much more than a gesture of tenderness made in intimacy , it is a very strong message sent immediately to the brain via the spinal cord , it is a real return ticket penis-brain and vice versa , the beginnings of a more intense physical and psychic pleasure. The excitement then causes a relaxation of the muscle fibers surrounding the cavities of the erectile cavernous bodies.

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3. The tumescent phase:
From this relaxation due to excitement, the penile arteries open and the corpora cavernosa fill with blood. The volume of the penis will then increase and it is the release of nitric oxide which is one of the main mediators at the origin of the erection: we are there in the pure chemistry of the body with in the end, this accumulation of guanosine cyclic monophosphate (cGMP) in both corpora cavernosa of the penis. It is the latter which triggers the relaxation of the smooth musculature of the penile arteries and of the intra-cavernous tissue with a result that lives up to expectations: the penis is gorged with blood and takes on an astonishing rigidity !

The order given upstream by the brain to the excitatory nerves of the penis becomes reality: it's up to you to play penis of love, it 's up to you to have a hard-on!

4. The stiffness phase:
In these so promising moments of intense excitement and erection, all that is erectile in the man 's body is set in motion: alone at the controls, the penis suddenly becomes the pilot . of the five senses.

Rigidity to the max of its capacities, it's a party for the penis and it 's the Holy Grail for the male in all its power! The blood pressure intensifies in the erectile bodies and it becomes trapped inside and hardens the penis until it sometimes doubles in size and volume. In this phase, it naturally fills with blood.

This interaction between endocrine, psychological, neurological and vascular factors is incredibly complex and erection is only the first step in the pleasures of sex. Short for some, longer for others, it is immediately of capital importance for the pride of the male : without erection, no penetration!

The erection can last, on average, about thirty minutes. However , this varies from person to person . The rigidity must be greater than 500g to guarantee penetration. So, a go! for penis swelling, hardening and enlargement. At the end of the day, a maximum erection!

The sexual reaction of the penis so well stimulated is not long in coming: it is the immediate physical response to the excitatory signals in direct connection with the nervous system. Throughout this long moment of excitement and erection, in an internal and external environment that is more or less favorable depending on the circumstances, the rise in power of the penis in its progressive erection as well as its relatively slow release which follows ejaculation are unfortunately subject to contradictory influences which also all come from the brain; these are interactions that turn out to be uncontrollable or, let's say, not very easy to master in their entirety.

The erection is therefore in itself a whole history of sex and it is as much physical as psychic. Simple in theory, the mechanism of erection is much more complex in its execution and its 4 essential phases are far from being the gentle waves of a long river that would like to be calm.

The penis at rest obviously does not give any concern,  pleasantly solicited, it grows and grows, and it swells to play the matador of love . After the effort the comfort , after the pleasure of ejaculation and orgasm ,  resting place of the warrior : it is the phase of detumescence, the last stage of the erection mechanism. 

Here are words a bit learned and complicated to understand to define what is scientifically the erection of the penis: tumescence and turgor (swelling of the tissues…)  and detumescence (decrease in tissue volume, etc.).  In our view, these technical notions are a bit too barbaric in their definition for such a natural phenomenon of a penis coming out of its shell to play fireworks .

Gentlemen, it is now up to you to play, to shield yourselves, to put in good working order and mutual understanding, all the feelings of your heart, all the sensations of your body but also all the tribulations of your neurons that harm or promote this beautiful erection. 

Erectile problems: pathological disorders or simple, more or less occasional problems...

Do you have temporary or repeated difficulties when getting a hard-on?
No taboo here, we talk about it freely at YESforLOV ! The maximum rigidity of the penis in the key moments of sexual pleasure alone but more pleasantly for two is a major issue for the male! To see him piteously playing the absent subscribers is for the normally constituted man an unbearable humiliation! What to do? 

No need to panic gentlemen but difficult indeed to keep your cool in the face of disaster! So, take your courage in both hands and do, without getting upset but also without cheating, your own sex health check !. It 's quite a challenge that you impose on yourself there but it will at least have the merit and the clarity of being later the locomotive that will take you to much better days! Any problem begins to be solved by dialogue with oneself ! Always keep in mind that the erection in man in all its erotic episode is under the shared control of two systems: on the one hand the purely neurological and hormonal system and on the other hand, the psyche of the human being. 

Erectile dysfunction is the impossibility of having a good erection! Shabby indeed turns out the erection of the man if it cannot be maintained over time with sufficient penile rigidity . The pride of the male takes quite a blow in what is most intimate and most secret!

We will not mention here the serious problems raised by sexual impotence and not more alphanisis which is a total absence of sexual desire. These are two dysfunctions that are too important to tackle straight away and which  belong to the sole multidisciplinary medical field. Let's deal more modestly with the penis of the man and try to understand all its vicissitudes when its rigidity is called into question. What beautiful life stories can indeed fully live this male organ! But what nightmarish moments must he endure and make his man suffer in disarray when everything goes wrong! 

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Did you know ?

According to some studies conducted in France, 39% of men aged 25 to 40 have already had a sexual breakdown and among seniors over 40, 30% of them suffer from a real problem of erectile dysfunction!

We really talk about erectile problems when the man is unable to maintain an erection to allow satisfactory sexuality and this sexual disorder has lasted for several months.

The causes of erectile dysfunction can be individual and simple to eliminate,  they can just as well be multiple, much more complex to identify and, by extension, much more difficult to deal with.

Among young people, it is their confidence in their erections that seems to be the heart of the problem, but the danger can therefore come from all sides: from illnesses that last longer or shorter and their treatment, which is often very heavy to bear, from risky behavior particularly negative or inappropriate. 

The list is impressive: well known are the risk factors  such as diabetes, cardiovascular problems, multiple sclerosis, artherosclerosis ….

Easier to resolve are the problems directly related to neglected obesity, poorly controlled overweight, excessive smoking, excessive alcohol consumption or a limitless addiction to narcotics…. 

The man 's phallus is confusing! Solicited by multiple stimulations, each more erotic than the other, the penis under the influence of the excitatory nervous circuits immediately gives its full agreement to climb all the passes of sexual pleasure presented to it ! Without having an abyssal void in front of you, but it looks very much like it, things unfortunately often get complicated : other orders coming from these same higher spheres of the brain and transmitted by the spinal cord come to spoil the sex party to better contradict what has previously requested! And yes , the psyche of man sometimes takes over his physique. 

We also know that 70% of cases of erectile dysfunction are purely psychological , as indicated by Doctor Sylvain Iceta, psychiatrist at the University Hospital of Lyon.

Stress is the main cause of erectile problems , moreover 33% of stressed men are victims of regular erectile dysfunction. Erection problems are commonplace and happen very often when you are stressed or anxious. Stress and erection are incompatible because the adrenal glands secrete adrenaline, a vasoconstrictor which will harm the principle of vasodilation by preventing the penis from filling with blood. Clearly, the more you are stressed the less you can get hard. So, take good care of your sex on a purely bodily level but try as best as possible to be as best as possible in full harmony with your neurons from above!

How to struggle and cope with sexual breakdown
and erectile dysfunction?

Gently, intelligently stimulated , the penis of the man is delighted with the windfall and he has the excellent reflex to lengthen , to double in volume, in short to show himself in his best light! The erection following arousal is indeed a physiological phenomenon whose perfectly natural mechanism releases physically by touch, mentally by sight or erotic vision, all the emotions coming from the body, the heart and the mind, everything what, in short , man can feel in his virility, his male pride. 

In the event of engine failure and a penis at half mast, what should be done? At the time, it must be admitted that it is the guaranteed disaster but not assumed. What a disaster! No way to capitulate and give up! Here are some solutions to effectively treat erectile dysfunction

1. Common drug treatments:

In the event of really serious sexual disorders ( and impotence is the number one!), the return to a more serene sexual life is a primary objective. The market for drugs for erectile disorders offers more or less effective treatments, sometimes very heavy to bear and subject to caution for their undesirable effects that should not be overlooked! And be careful, don't put yourself in danger! Consult your doctor first before taking this very specific type of medication!

2. The vacuum or penis pump
The use of a penis pump (vacuum) can also be considered for erectile dysfunction.

In this approach, we also recommend the models of bathmade which offers you the best penis pumps on the market at affordable prices. The penis pump will act on this influx of blood by pumping the air where the penis is placed. The pressure difference will increase blood circulation in the corpora cavernosa and allow an erection. Penis pumps are effective and are offered as a second-line treatment when medical treatment is ineffective, or for men unable or unwilling to undergo drug treatment or undergo surgery.

3. Intracavernous injection
I nitiated for the first time in 1980, this method consists of self-injecting a product into the penis to induce an erection by a local blood flow mechanism in the corpora cavernosa.
In these injections, prostaglandin E1 is used to create this famous artificial erection.

4. Penile surgery and prostheses:
It is an operation which consists of surgically introducing rigid or inflatable cylinders into the corpora cavernosa in order to give the patient suffering from impotence the possibility of having sexual intercourse . Even if this operation is supported by Social Security, it is intended for patients suffering from serious erectile dysfunction, after total failure or complete intolerance of the treatments previously started.

Apart from drug treatments, the management of erectile dysfunction that has a psychogenic origin falls under individual or couple psychotherapy. Finally, new protocols are emerging in some avant-garde urology practices with studies and trials, injections of PRP ( it is plasma rich in platelets, recovered from the patient 's own blood) . Effective and safe over time? For our rheumatologists to confirm...  or not! 

In life , there is nothing definitive! Erectile disorders are difficulties in living and loving among others and they are not insurmountable, far from it. Men of all ages, never fall into the negative and defeatist spiral of disgust or self-abandonment! It's up to you to be strong and proactive enough to take the compass and find the right course. The pleasure of sex is the fullness of life on earth and it greatly contributes to our social happiness.

Our sex advice for an erection at the Top!

1. Dramatize the situation and try as much as possible not to worry!

Don't let your image of a struggling male fade so much, anxiety can attack your already damaged manhood head on and in depth. Stress is destructive and the lawsuit you unconsciously or frontally bring to your penis is too devastating. On the contrary, always trust him  in the medium and long term , he is not deaf, help him instead of mistreating and despising him.

Don't let him withdraw into himself, he will know one day or another to be grateful to you a hundredfold!

Photos by @pluetoe

2. Opt for a few measures
dietary habits

Implement and as soon as possible some measures that you know perfectly well but which have hardly motivated you until now : a less hectic pace of life, a balanced and quality diet, exercises and sport to maintain good physical shape. .

Be reasonable in your alcohol consumption and  decide on the quick about tobacco. We no longer smoke and we automatically start breathing exercises!

Some efforts please , in other words, do yoga and sports.

All this will be beneficial when you return to the duvet! 


3. Communicate with your partner about this problem:

Have the courage to talk about it , don't let your partner imagine the worst, open your heart to him or her and he or she will very quickly become your first support, your first aid to tackle your most intimate problems head on. .

You can also call a sex therapist and consider individual or couples therapy. 

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This erotic stimulant for men brings a sensation of hot and cold to the heart of excitement while preserving the extreme sensitivity of the penis.

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Gentlemen, YESforLOV will always be by your side to accompany you and help you solve your small and big intimate problems! Do not hide in your loneliness with your doubts and your fears, even if you are personally terribly disappointed and hurt in your male pride! It's up to you to modestly admit that your penis is not easy: you knew it was naughty, you were far from suspecting that it could have misfires, worse inadmissible failures!  You are still too many today not to make this observation, to deny as a male any anomaly yet likely to come one day or another to reach your sexuality with full force, to reject the evidence of your insufficiencies on the sex side completely repairable for the most part. It 's a gross error that can be understood but which turns out to have serious consequences over time when you persist in denial for too long. Drive the cruel nail into a momentarily difficult reality to live with and look instead for the right keys that  will open you  again the beautiful doors of your happiness in danger.